"Meet Manong Teddy. I didn't know him, he didn't know me, but we
crossed paths and shared moments together I will never forget.
Here I was in Barangay Upper Uma, Lubuagan Kalinga. Out of
curiosity, I trekked down to this little village nestled under mountains
and surrounded by rice terraces... it was just so beautiful. Alone
and unaware of my surroundings, I still felt comfortable. Heading
towards this village I just felt like I was in the right place, and
surrounded by good.
Walking up through rice fields and getting closer to houses, I saw a man
sitting on the ground...
"Brother! How are you!"
This 57 year old man who introduced himself as Teddy smiled and spoke
beaming with happiness. He didn't speak much english, and my Tagalog
wasn't perfect in the least... but we worked it out. A simple
conversation was had. As I stood up and walked away I heard Teddy
once again:
"Coffee? At my place?"
I decided to turn back and accept it. And so I found myself in
Manong Teddy's house. It was a simple house with very few
appliances, but filled with love... you could just feel it. And when
he handed me fresh coffee, and apologized:
"Sorry, I have no bread."
That was when it all started to hit me.
I quickly interrupted him... "Manong... no, no... let me get the
bread!" There was no bread in the village sari-sari store. But
i managed to get some crackers.
Back in Manong Teddy's house I noticed a picture on the wall. Turns
out his son was away in Sulu. He joined the military and was away
from home, serving the Philippines. The minutes ticked away... we
sat down, talked about life, educated each other about our languages, and
I even used my Philippines map tattoo to explain where I was from in
Mindanao. I was a complete stranger... but Manong never hesitated to
open up his life, and his home to me. He even apologized for "not
having enough to offer me".
Excuse my language here. Really I don't swear and I apologize for this,
but I want you to feel my emotion here... I don't F***ing deserve
that! How dare he apologize for giving. GIVING. That is
all he had been doing the past 45 minutes! But you see, that is the
Philippines... a place where giving is a part of life. Where people
pride themselves on JUST GIVING.
How that needs to spread... Just give. How I believe it will.
One day at a time if we strive to emulate it.
As the afternoon ticked away, I realized I wanted to see the rice
terraces before it got too late. I thanked Manong Teddy and left his
house... but even then he looked out for me. Manong sent a group of
kids from the village to guide me. And as I explored and started to
head up the far side of the terraces towards my motorbike... Manong was
already waiting near the top. He must have been watching out for me,
and making sure I wasn't having any difficulties.
We met again near the base of the trail up to my motor I noticed he was
standing over some watercress:
"Kulas, would you like to take some watercress?"
Grabe! He wasn't just watching out for me... Manong Teddy now even
wanted to give me his vegetables! I politely declined, and we
proceeded to walk up the last bit of trail.
"Kulas, you are always welcome here. Your friends can sleep in my
house anytime."
I was really starting to get overwhelmed. Giving, Caring, Open,
Friendly, Trusting, Positive... Manong Teddy is exactly what we should all
strive to be. It really touched my heart interacting with him in this
small mountain village of Kalinga.
I was so touched by all his acts of kindness and giving... I wish I had
something I could offer him.
And right before I left I asked:
"Manong, have you ever seen Canadians here? Ever met one?"
He responded:
"You are the first. First one I have ever heard of in our
place."
I didn't have much on me... but I did have my favourite Canadian jersey.
I took it off and offered it to him. Manongs first reaction:
"No! No! It is cold..."
Yes it was getting towards night time, and it was cold. Manong
didn't want to accept my gift, because he recognized it would make me feel
uncomfortable!
NO. NOT A CHANCE I WASN'T LETTING HIM ACCEPT THIS
GIFT.
He took it in the end with a big smile.
And what I took with me for the rest of my life is a heart full of
lessons from this Filipino Manong... on how WE AS HUMANS SHOULD BE.
The Philippines is full of people like Manong Teddy, and I am so blessed
to be here learning from them...
One day at a time.